Navigating an unplanned pregnancy can be difficult and stressful, and not having the support of your partner can make it feel overwhelming.
The first thing to know is that it’s your pregnancy and your decision. No one, including your partner, has the right to force you into a decision about your pregnancy.
Continue reading to learn valuable tips in talking to your partner about your pregnancy, as well as how to get the support you need.
How is Your Partner Responding?
Is your partner pressuring you to make a decision about your pregnancy that you’re uncomfortable with?
This pressure can be either direct or indirect.
Direct pressure involves them making threats about leaving the relationship or actively pressuring you to make a decision.
Indirect pressure can be more subtle and manipulative. Your partner may try giving you the silent treatment or withholding affection from you to try to get you to do what they want.
Keep in mind that both direct and indirect pressure are not healthy responses and can turn into physically or emotionally abusive behaviour.
If you ever feel unsafe or that your partner is at risk of putting you in physical danger, you can reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) for help, and if you believe you are in imminent danger, then leave right away and call 911.
Talking to Your Partner
Discussing expectations and concerns with your partner may be valuable in helping them become more supportive. Tips that can help when talking with your partner include:
- Know the Facts: An ultrasound scan can be used to give you valuable details about your pregnancy. This information can be helpful to share with your partner to show that you are serious about the pregnancy and in control.
- Establish Boundaries: Make it clear that you are open to hearing his concerns and opinions, but that the decision is ultimately yours to make.
- Let Him Process: Once you’ve shared the details and your plan for the pregnancy, give him the time and space to process what you’ve shared, as well as his own feelings.
- Find a Mediator or Counselor: If you find that conversations with your partner about the pregnancy are too emotional, then ask a third party to help. Using a third party, like a trusted friend, family member, or counselor, can help direct the conversation and keep everyone calm.
Finding the Support You Need
Regardless of how your partner responds, there are many options available to you for obtaining valuable support during your pregnancy.
Lakeside Women’s Clinic is here for you. We provide free pregnancy test confirmation, follow-up, ultrasounds, and options consultations to help you navigate your choices.
Our trained staff can also answer all your questions and walk you through the support opportunities available to you.
Contact us today to schedule your free and confidential appointment.
